Chicken Pox

Chicken pox, may it be Small Pox, or Big Pox, it could turned out to be a disastrous new experience, or became one of our never ending learning process in motherhood. It turned out moderately for me, even though it was my 1st plight. Then again,you need to work hard towards it. I went through it on my own, learnt through my own experience and that is the most valuable knowledge I gained so far. Here's my story and how I did it. =)

Early and later stages of Chicken Pox

Blister - Papule - Ulcer

It was somewhere towards the end of year 2013 when i noticed red spots mushrooming on my 6yo 's back. One key here, the pox can really mushroomed FAST. It looks more like small rashes at first, then it grew bigger n watery inside. So, that's the1st conformation that IT IS Chicken Pox you are about to deal with for the next few days. Then they would high fever that would accompany it for the 1st three consecutive days. This is where my advices starts. DO NOT stop the heat. DO NOT consume any kind of antibiotics to stop the pox. (If you do not mind having chicken pox a few times in your life, then go ahead Its your choice). The virus somehow needs the heat to breed out all the pox and at the same time the building up of your child's antibody towards Chicken Pox for a lifetime. Instead, EASE the heat. And there's no other short cut to it, diligently check on your child's temperature for the first 3days. (Yes, I am referring to a lot of sponging, or bathing, or any other natural ways to ease the heat.) Make her/him drink plenty too. Water, fluids are crucial essentials during this hot period. I find it worth it because at the end of the day, all the pox will come out forever, and you wouldn't have to worry about them getting exposed to others who have chicken pox. That's one great relief, right? At the same time of the first day of its outbreak, I diligently feed them with a Mexican homeopathic remedy called Hoitzia coccinea for 1/2hour daily. Then followed by remedies called 'Bacillinum' and " Mercurius - Hydrargyrum" for my 6yo and 2yo. And 'Antimonium Tartaricum' and 'Mercurius - Hydrargyrum' for my 4yo. It depends on your Homoepath Doc on the prescriptions given. But the main remedy for Pox is called 'Hoitzia' ,as shown in the picture below. 

Hoitzia coccinea

To dry up the pox and fade off the scars, besides depending on the homoepath remedies itself, I use Neem leaves ( 'Semambu as called by the locals). It is well know among the Indians here. Usually, go and ask them and they will eventually lead you to the nearest tree. Grab a bunch of it, then bath your child with the last rinse. I simply crushed the fresh leaves with my bare hands and dump them in the bath tub for the last rinse during bath time, starting from day 1. The leaves might dry and curled up towards the end of the week. Do not discard it, I just blend it with the dry miller and dump it in their last tub rinse. No need to waste. Tuck a few stems under their mattress an pillows for a cooling effect during the fever period. I even make juice with the leaves and add them to 'bedak sejuk' (small balls made from crushed dried rice) and apply them on the whole body after each bath. By the 3rd day, you will notice that no new pox will appear any more. Then its all about drying up and de scar the ulcers..

Neem tree . (Eventually, it appear the same as any other trees, so you need to get a close up at the leaves, or simply as the locals to guide you)

A close up of Neem leaves

This is just my own simple tips on curbing Chicken Pox. Hope it will beneficial to other first time experienced mommies like. My 1st experience was a bit though as all the 3 of kids had it back to back. So it was like a few months of 'hard work' for me. After everyone is well, make sure you clean up the whole house, wash the bedsheets, blankets and pillows too. Dry them up well as you wouldn't want a hidden spores anywhere. 


Try not to let your kids scratch the papules . Let them dry up naturally. If needed, you can simplytie a bunch of neem stems, and bit them lightly onto the skin whenever it ithces. Make sure to cut their nails short during these crucial stage. You wouldn't want things to get worst from what they are now.

Entering Motherhood

"  Congratulations on your newborn. Thanks..Do join us at our baby shower party"... Is motherhood fully about joyfulness, parties, showers of compliments, gifts and presents? Or is motherhood about challenges, putting in efforts, understanding what a child speaks inside, and most of all, testing your patience to the limits? Just a thought of mine. Read on..

I agree with the fact that being a 1st time mother is ain't easy, especially if you are on your own. It's like entering a door into a whole new world called Motherhood. You are clueless on what's happening, what to expect, and how to react to such situations. I was in that complete dilemma before.

And then goes ' Oh, how I wished someone told me earlier how to overcome these baby problems'. Well,..wish no more, or  you'll find yourself expanding your wishlist from time to time. Motherhood is not something you could just read and master in a short time. Motherhood is something you have to hurdle through and learn along the way.

Every child is unique. It also applies between mother and child. Nothing is 100% similar except for some physical appearances, of course. Mommy's eyes, daddy's long fingers and toes, and the list goes on. Your child will be a superb combination of you and your spouse. This also includes the bad attitudes combination. So, parents.. well behave and mind your languages in front of your kids.If you don't, you might be dumbfounded at the 'results'..

And bear in mind, that each child of yours will need different attentions. My 1st child seems more independent. She will mimic exactly whatever I do or say (gestures included, of course!). She's also a big help around the house, I must admit. Whatever it is, I can't expect a 3yr old kid to think and work like adults do. I must excuse her misbehaviour and uncompleted tasks sometimes. Even a small helping hand is much blessings.


My 2nd child is more pampered, likes to be cuddled and very playful and mischievous at times. Hr cries easily and cannot tolerate any form of harshness and brutality. He likes to befriend everyone his size. Both of them are smart and fast learners. They started walking at an early age. My 1st child started walking when she was 7.5months, and my 2nd child when he was 9months. That's where their similarity as siblings shows.


So you see.. Motherhood is ain't tough job after all. It's a just a matter of how you curb those problems ahead. It can become stressful when you set a very high expectations in it. You can't simply expect everything to flow smoothly along the way. Be prepared for the unexpected. Avoid any bad circumstances if you can. Put an effort, read a lot and listen to other mother's stories on motherhood. At least you'll be armed with some knowledge when confronting the least unexpected.


Now, maybe this is the right time to say ..'' Congratulations on your newborn!.."   =)

A 9m Journey

Most mothers went through hardship throughout the 1st trimester. Mine lasted till the 3rd trimester for both my kids (boy, how LUCKY I am!). Some even had the worst of morning sickness, bleeding through the 3rd trimester, and much much more other experiences. I had afternoon sickness so far, as it occurs only in the afternoon. I never actually gained weight during both my pregnancies. But, like they say, experiences will make you even wiser. I went through a miscarriage before, so despite the worst afternoon sickness I had to go throughout 9m, it's also a 'good sign' that my baby is developing normally. It just pay off with all those hardship, just to finally give birth to healthy, beautiful kids. So, pregnancy is not just about whining all the way towards 9m, but it's a matter of appreciation."Thank God for giving me this gold opportunity to be a MOM"..

Conceiving and Miscarriage

It seems quite hard to conceive these days. I have no specific tips to be more fertile, but I believe if you practice a good and healthy lifestyle, which includes good eating habits, then have no worries bout conceiving. No point of stressing out yourself, torturing your mind and soul bout getting pregnant as soon as possible. At the end of the day, you'll put your marriage at risk by making it even more difficult to conceive. Just relax and enjoy life with your partner. The time will come when you will have kids of your own.


I recalled the 1st time I was tested for pregnancy. The double positive line appeared vividly, but enough to make me on top of the world. I was a Mom at last! But fate just turned the table over me. As happy as a lark at 1st, I soon learned that my baby wasn't developing normally. At 10months, I had a miscarriage. I was still working at that time, you just couldn't image how miserable I was. I don't feel like going into public. I'm ashamed of myself, towards my family, friends. Everyone knew about the baby coming but now it's gone.


I then seek treatment for both physically and mentally through homeopathy. It works for me and till today, no more drugs for me and my kids, just homeopathy that does the cure. I was pregnant again with my 1st child 3m later.And 2yrs later with my 2nd child.