I admit the cold side of me. I do have the tendency of becoming a witch rather than a mom whenever I'm angry with my kids. They are like.. forever getting on my nerves! But when getting my senses back on track, kids will always be kids. Whether it's your kids or mine, they are and will be the same rascals at times. You just can't afford to be easily irritated with their butterfingers, tortoise like-seems to take ages to complete a simple task given, or even when they have difficulties in understanding an adult's speech or commands.
However, if you experience somewhat unsatisfied anger or seemingly overwhelming while hitting, spanking, pinching or yelling at your kids, this must come to a stop. If punishing your kids results in bruises, scars, bluish spots or kids having difficult ventilation after profuse cries and tears out of dreadful fears, these must also brought to a halt, despite whether you really meant it or not. Parents need to get a grip on their anger management 1st, before laying out rules and punishments on their kids.
From time to time, kids do make mistakes. Sometimes even the dumbest mistakes you could ever thought of. Adults make mistakes often too. We learned and improved ourselves from these mistakes. And like adults, kids need to be constantly reminded too. Educate them smartly with love and care. Pin point outs the do s and don't s. Console, hug and explain to them after each punishment applied. This is a very important step. If you do not make up to them after each punishment, you are risking their future personality, by making ways for anger, hatred and violence to subside inside your kids.
Confront them the right ways - by kneeling down, eye to eye leveled, giving them a piece of advice-at a calm tone. Do not scream or yell from the other side of the room (though at times, its much more convenient to yell from afar). It just doesn't work that way with kids. At a certain point, your aggressiveness might even be misinterpreted as an entertainment for your kids.-'Can't live a day without hearing mom screaming at the top of her lungs'. I believe that when I put in lots of efforts, patience (sometimes, to the extend of losing my own head) and time in educating my kids, I will be awarded with loving and well behaved kids.
Some might stood up and say ' It's easy for you to say. My kids aren't well behaved s yours. They deserve spanking, yelling and hitting as a lesson'. Believe me, I am also those moms in dilemma of training not well behaved kids. Just for a thought here. You have been playing rough for years. Does it work on your kids? Are they getting better? Or are they now playing rough themselves on their own siblings? Or are you, as a mom, getting even more stressed out than before?
We must 1st change ourselves in order to witness changes all round. There are far more better and efficient ways to educate kids. Using 'tools' and violence on kids are totally unacceptable. Love mist, smart parents and acting firm yet gentle works best.
