Every marriage has it's own ups and downs. I don't see for any clear reason why kids should also be dragged and entangled into their parents fights of disagreements. Any disagreements between spouses should be iron out to the core. It's much easier to play the goody-two-shoes role in public. But when you're at home with your family, the bad sides just shows.
For the sake of your kids, practice good parents habits. Set a good role model for your kids. Fall in love with each other again and again. Embraced those good times together. Learn to respect and listen to each other. It's okay to have any disagreements once in a while. Make it a good habit to apologize each other after each mistakes done and say thank you after each favors.
Kids learn more from their own parents than from anyone else. Whatever parents do, their gestures or languages, how they talk, the tone of their voice, how they appreciate each other, are all observed and will be adapted by kids. They might think and say 'So, this is how adults interact with each other. This is also what I will do later.' And I'm sure, as a good parent you won't want to give your kids the 'wrong impression' throughout their learning process.
Words of affection, reassurance, and compliments from parents are needed in kids developments. More of 'I love you', 'Thank you for helping', 'Well done', 'Could you PLEASE do me a favor', 'It's okay, you've tried your very best', 'We miss you here. How's day at school?' and so forth. These are words that could leave a deep impact on your kids personality development.
It is easy said than done when it comes to leaving behind those bad habits. Like Oprah Winfrey said, It is about how you feel through your experiences than made you the person you are today. If I am a child who grows from words of destructive rather than compliments, I should understand more than to let my kids go through the same experiences I felt.
Kids are born brilliant..They'll pick up good humanity along the way. But it's a total shame when these smarties have to grow up in an unhealthy environment. Try to practice good parents who respect, listen and help each other a lot and you will be bound for a happy family, in the making of good quality kids..
Monday, April 11, 2011
Friday, April 1, 2011
Give Kids some Time-out
If you're really on the verve of swaying those anger on your kids tantrums, play it safe and smart.
For any misbehavior done, apply a time-out on them. When kids start to disobey the don't s rules, carry them to a corner inside the house. Leave them over a timer of 2mins, 5mins, 10mins, 12mins or anytime that suits best. Remind them and let them be by themselves for a while. Just to rethink about those misbehaves done. They might be awkward at 1st, being applied those time-outs. But it's safer and more efficient than hitting or yelling.
However, I personally disagree with parents applying time-outs, -outdoors. They are lots of kids snatchers out there nowadays. These professionals could even snatch kids right under their parents' nose. Kids, when given a time-out outside the house appears like a 'delicious appetizer' for them. You won't want to take risks that will be regretted for your life.
There is another safe alternative for grumpy parents with misbehaved kids like me. Whenever they accidentally do something that might pissed you off, just hug them tightly and utter 'I Love You' till your anger subsides. Then again, explain them of their wrong doings. It is more important to seed those love bonds between a mom and her child during childhood times, rather blooming anger and hatred inside them.
I wasn't a good kid myself during my childhood. Often, cane marks on my limbs, slap marks on my cheeks. Those are just some of the values I choose not to inherit to my kids. Some parents do practice 'soft violence' by caning those naughty kids with a damp, rolled up cloth. It doesn't hurt as much as canes or hangers, but you might accidentally cane their sensitive areas such as eyes, nose, ears or genitals. As parents, I'm sure you won't want to be the cause to any fatal injuries on your kids, so go for a better and safer option to train your kids.
For any misbehavior done, apply a time-out on them. When kids start to disobey the don't s rules, carry them to a corner inside the house. Leave them over a timer of 2mins, 5mins, 10mins, 12mins or anytime that suits best. Remind them and let them be by themselves for a while. Just to rethink about those misbehaves done. They might be awkward at 1st, being applied those time-outs. But it's safer and more efficient than hitting or yelling.
However, I personally disagree with parents applying time-outs, -outdoors. They are lots of kids snatchers out there nowadays. These professionals could even snatch kids right under their parents' nose. Kids, when given a time-out outside the house appears like a 'delicious appetizer' for them. You won't want to take risks that will be regretted for your life.
There is another safe alternative for grumpy parents with misbehaved kids like me. Whenever they accidentally do something that might pissed you off, just hug them tightly and utter 'I Love You' till your anger subsides. Then again, explain them of their wrong doings. It is more important to seed those love bonds between a mom and her child during childhood times, rather blooming anger and hatred inside them.
I wasn't a good kid myself during my childhood. Often, cane marks on my limbs, slap marks on my cheeks. Those are just some of the values I choose not to inherit to my kids. Some parents do practice 'soft violence' by caning those naughty kids with a damp, rolled up cloth. It doesn't hurt as much as canes or hangers, but you might accidentally cane their sensitive areas such as eyes, nose, ears or genitals. As parents, I'm sure you won't want to be the cause to any fatal injuries on your kids, so go for a better and safer option to train your kids.
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