I admit the cold side of me. I do have the tendency of becoming a witch rather than a mom whenever I'm angry with my kids. They are like.. forever getting on my nerves! But when getting my senses back on track, kids will always be kids. Whether it's your kids or mine, they are and will be the same rascals at times. You just can't afford to be easily irritated with their butterfingers, tortoise like-seems to take ages to complete a simple task given, or even when they have difficulties in understanding an adult's speech or commands.
However, if you experience somewhat unsatisfied anger or seemingly overwhelming while hitting, spanking, pinching or yelling at your kids, this must come to a stop. If punishing your kids results in bruises, scars, bluish spots or kids having difficult ventilation after profuse cries and tears out of dreadful fears, these must also brought to a halt, despite whether you really meant it or not. Parents need to get a grip on their anger management 1st, before laying out rules and punishments on their kids.
From time to time, kids do make mistakes. Sometimes even the dumbest mistakes you could ever thought of. Adults make mistakes often too. We learned and improved ourselves from these mistakes. And like adults, kids need to be constantly reminded too. Educate them smartly with love and care. Pin point outs the do s and don't s. Console, hug and explain to them after each punishment applied. This is a very important step. If you do not make up to them after each punishment, you are risking their future personality, by making ways for anger, hatred and violence to subside inside your kids.
Confront them the right ways - by kneeling down, eye to eye leveled, giving them a piece of advice-at a calm tone. Do not scream or yell from the other side of the room (though at times, its much more convenient to yell from afar). It just doesn't work that way with kids. At a certain point, your aggressiveness might even be misinterpreted as an entertainment for your kids.-'Can't live a day without hearing mom screaming at the top of her lungs'. I believe that when I put in lots of efforts, patience (sometimes, to the extend of losing my own head) and time in educating my kids, I will be awarded with loving and well behaved kids.
Some might stood up and say ' It's easy for you to say. My kids aren't well behaved s yours. They deserve spanking, yelling and hitting as a lesson'. Believe me, I am also those moms in dilemma of training not well behaved kids. Just for a thought here. You have been playing rough for years. Does it work on your kids? Are they getting better? Or are they now playing rough themselves on their own siblings? Or are you, as a mom, getting even more stressed out than before?
We must 1st change ourselves in order to witness changes all round. There are far more better and efficient ways to educate kids. Using 'tools' and violence on kids are totally unacceptable. Love mist, smart parents and acting firm yet gentle works best.
Saturday, March 26, 2011
Thursday, March 24, 2011
Taming those Tantrums
"'Always be firm, but yet gentle with your kids'. Those are the words of wisdom from a mother to her daughter, who is now, entering motherhood herself. As a mother myself, I believe that kids tantrums happens for a reason. A reason for those unheard dissatisfaction. Dissatisfaction on their feelings when often witnessing parents quarreling and hitting each other, the feelings of an elder child being left out when parents care and tend more to their younger siblings, feelings of children lacking quality times with their busy occupied parents, feelings of children in a moved-out-a-lot family, feelings of children not spending enough playtime with friends, feelings of children being left out in any decision making that concerns the whole family and much much more an adult mind could think of.
They too, need to voice out their feelings and opinions. And most importantly, being heard by parents. Tantrums can happen at home or even in public, happens once in a while or even everyday tantrums like my kids. Anything dissatisfying could trigger tantrums. If lack of mom's attention is the cause, anything that could catch mom's attention will do, even throwing a bad tantrum in public. When kids tantrums become public, bring them to a quiet corner, far from public eyes if possible, and talk some senses into them. It could be a win-win situation instead of win-lose, if you are good at negotiating with your kids. Never shout and scream at them in public. It'll scar their pride and even mushroomed hatred inside.
Bear in mind that kids pick up bad habits faster than the good ones. It could be habits from their friends, cousins or even parents themselves. These bad habits will show themselves during tantrums. But root of those tantrums doesn't source from their surrounding, but it's from the unheard souls within them.
When those dissatisfaction aren't heard or voice out, it will slowly accumulate inside and your kids will soon bottled up all of their feelings. Before you know it, there will be a thick wall between you and your kids. The wall that you, as a parent yourself, obliviously, take part in constructing it.
It is a priority to educate kids the right ways and means to speak up for themselves. It is never to late to change to a better parent. It is also, after 3years, that I started to realized I haven't heard my daughter well enough. I am also all these years, obliviously building those wall of gaps between the both of us. I am, the cause of her everyday tantrums. The truth can hurt sometimes.
Dissolving those wall of gaps, on the other hand, doesn't take ages. The relationship between a child and her mother has long been bond, even before a child is born. When parents decided to turn over a new leaf, their kids will follow voluntarily. When kids dissatisfaction are always heard and valued by parents, kids won't hesitate anymore to confront their parents whenever they need to be heard. No more unheard dissatisfaction = no more bottled up feelings = no more sudden tantrums.
They too, need to voice out their feelings and opinions. And most importantly, being heard by parents. Tantrums can happen at home or even in public, happens once in a while or even everyday tantrums like my kids. Anything dissatisfying could trigger tantrums. If lack of mom's attention is the cause, anything that could catch mom's attention will do, even throwing a bad tantrum in public. When kids tantrums become public, bring them to a quiet corner, far from public eyes if possible, and talk some senses into them. It could be a win-win situation instead of win-lose, if you are good at negotiating with your kids. Never shout and scream at them in public. It'll scar their pride and even mushroomed hatred inside.
Bear in mind that kids pick up bad habits faster than the good ones. It could be habits from their friends, cousins or even parents themselves. These bad habits will show themselves during tantrums. But root of those tantrums doesn't source from their surrounding, but it's from the unheard souls within them.
When those dissatisfaction aren't heard or voice out, it will slowly accumulate inside and your kids will soon bottled up all of their feelings. Before you know it, there will be a thick wall between you and your kids. The wall that you, as a parent yourself, obliviously, take part in constructing it.
It is a priority to educate kids the right ways and means to speak up for themselves. It is never to late to change to a better parent. It is also, after 3years, that I started to realized I haven't heard my daughter well enough. I am also all these years, obliviously building those wall of gaps between the both of us. I am, the cause of her everyday tantrums. The truth can hurt sometimes.
Dissolving those wall of gaps, on the other hand, doesn't take ages. The relationship between a child and her mother has long been bond, even before a child is born. When parents decided to turn over a new leaf, their kids will follow voluntarily. When kids dissatisfaction are always heard and valued by parents, kids won't hesitate anymore to confront their parents whenever they need to be heard. No more unheard dissatisfaction = no more bottled up feelings = no more sudden tantrums.
Wednesday, March 16, 2011
Milk Quality vs Milk Quantity
The whole world agrees on one matter - Breast milk is the best milk a mom could provide for her growing baby. Surely it doesn't cost you a penny and yet it could provide the best nutrients at the perfect quantity for your baby's development, both physically and spiritually.
When I was a 1st time mom, little did I know about the miracle works of breast milk. During the 1st few months of lactating my 1st child, I often caught up with bad colds. I consume lots of oranges diligently everyday during those months. I started to notice that my baby girl merely fall sick, even after her immunization doses. She was pretty strong and fit for a baby of her size.
I even recalled having a bad fever after 6m of delivery. Even then, I still continue breastfeeding exclusively. Amazingly, my baby girl remains fit and healthy growing. I wondered..what makes her THAT strong? No,..she didn't get the 'orange milk' (that's what I thought at 1st), but what happen was, when I diligently consume oranges (which is rich in Vitamin C), my body produces more resistant antibodies. These are the antibodies that flows to my baby during breastfeeding. No wonder I had a fit and healthy baby girl!
Since then, oranges and cod liver capsules are a must in my lactating diet. Especially during those 1st few months of baby's rapid growth. Cod liver oils, on the other hand is a good remedy for coughing moms and acts superbly on your baby's brain development. All the goodness of Omega 3 fatty acids will aid into a smart learning baby.
I can't make it a must for every lactating moms, but whatever lactating diets you choose, keep a highlight on it's nutrients and make sure it's affordable too. You won't want to over strained yourself on over budgeting those expenses, hence making ways for stress to suppress your milk production. Any nutritious food that benefits you, will also be beneficial to your baby, via breast milk.
As to produce more milk during lactating, the key rule is to avoid entrapping yourself in stressful conditions. A stressful mom will stumble upon difficulties in producing more milk. One helpful tip is to learn that there are also 1st time mothers out there who face many issues before mastering the correct breastfeeding techniques. Be a positive thinker in life and it can save you a dollar or even more. =)
Here's a list of food that can enhance your body to produce more milk. I jot it down, years back during one of my antenatal classes. It helps me a lot.
When I was a 1st time mom, little did I know about the miracle works of breast milk. During the 1st few months of lactating my 1st child, I often caught up with bad colds. I consume lots of oranges diligently everyday during those months. I started to notice that my baby girl merely fall sick, even after her immunization doses. She was pretty strong and fit for a baby of her size.
I even recalled having a bad fever after 6m of delivery. Even then, I still continue breastfeeding exclusively. Amazingly, my baby girl remains fit and healthy growing. I wondered..what makes her THAT strong? No,..she didn't get the 'orange milk' (that's what I thought at 1st), but what happen was, when I diligently consume oranges (which is rich in Vitamin C), my body produces more resistant antibodies. These are the antibodies that flows to my baby during breastfeeding. No wonder I had a fit and healthy baby girl!
Since then, oranges and cod liver capsules are a must in my lactating diet. Especially during those 1st few months of baby's rapid growth. Cod liver oils, on the other hand is a good remedy for coughing moms and acts superbly on your baby's brain development. All the goodness of Omega 3 fatty acids will aid into a smart learning baby.
I can't make it a must for every lactating moms, but whatever lactating diets you choose, keep a highlight on it's nutrients and make sure it's affordable too. You won't want to over strained yourself on over budgeting those expenses, hence making ways for stress to suppress your milk production. Any nutritious food that benefits you, will also be beneficial to your baby, via breast milk.
As to produce more milk during lactating, the key rule is to avoid entrapping yourself in stressful conditions. A stressful mom will stumble upon difficulties in producing more milk. One helpful tip is to learn that there are also 1st time mothers out there who face many issues before mastering the correct breastfeeding techniques. Be a positive thinker in life and it can save you a dollar or even more. =)
Here's a list of food that can enhance your body to produce more milk. I jot it down, years back during one of my antenatal classes. It helps me a lot.
- Centella asiatica (pennyworts)
- Black fennel seeds
- Spinach
- White radish
- White shark ( you make them into dishes, not as pets -LOL)
- Milk (or any milk based drinks)
- Banana heart (inflorescence)
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Chemical and Drug Poisoning
Kids are just kids. No matter how smart they are, they are easily distracted. Anything colorful and 'fun looking' is just to good to resists.
These, however, includes all those colorful medicines (tablets or syrup) or even detergents, soaps, or repellents that comes in 'attractive' packaging these days. For a prevention step, store all medication and other chemical reagents in a high and unreachable height. You might want to reconsider the 'safe height' to a higher level, when witnessing your 3 year kid standing on a chair and trying to reach out for the mosquito repellent, or even your 3year old kid sharing a bottle of cough syrup with her 1year old brother, just because she herself is given a dose whenever the cough catches in. It doesn't make any difference to her if medicine are given one teaspoon or the emptying the whole bottle!
Yes, these heart throbbing 'scenes' do take place in real life. You never know when these 'accidents' could occur. You have been all ears and all eyes these time and there's only this 'one time' when you are one minute off guard those curious kids of yours, and that's when fatal accidents usually happens at home.
Whatever chemicals or medicines that your kids accidentally swallowed, you might want to bring along those bottles or packaging with you to the hospital. Different chemical poisoning receives different treatment, according to the main ingredients it contains. By making an effort to bring along those bottles or packaging involved, saving the life of your little loved ones might be possible. These are also the star advice my pediatrician used to remind me about. =)
These, however, includes all those colorful medicines (tablets or syrup) or even detergents, soaps, or repellents that comes in 'attractive' packaging these days. For a prevention step, store all medication and other chemical reagents in a high and unreachable height. You might want to reconsider the 'safe height' to a higher level, when witnessing your 3 year kid standing on a chair and trying to reach out for the mosquito repellent, or even your 3year old kid sharing a bottle of cough syrup with her 1year old brother, just because she herself is given a dose whenever the cough catches in. It doesn't make any difference to her if medicine are given one teaspoon or the emptying the whole bottle!
Yes, these heart throbbing 'scenes' do take place in real life. You never know when these 'accidents' could occur. You have been all ears and all eyes these time and there's only this 'one time' when you are one minute off guard those curious kids of yours, and that's when fatal accidents usually happens at home.
Whatever chemicals or medicines that your kids accidentally swallowed, you might want to bring along those bottles or packaging with you to the hospital. Different chemical poisoning receives different treatment, according to the main ingredients it contains. By making an effort to bring along those bottles or packaging involved, saving the life of your little loved ones might be possible. These are also the star advice my pediatrician used to remind me about. =)
Food Poisoning
Whenever it concerns food poisoning, or chemical poisoning, both seek immediate treatment. Food poisoning, for a start, occurs more often in my family. We are the 'home-cooked type tummy'. We often get tummy upsets easily after eating some 'lousy' food outside. So, it is best for me to home cooked for the whole family.
Food poisoning occurs when those tummy upsets are not curbed, which later followed by frequently diarrhoea and vomiting. If left untreated, it might lead to serious body dehydration. When dehydration takes place, your body starts losing all those essential minerals and salt. Some doctors even suggest drinking ice cream sodas or any mild bicarbonate drinks such as 100 plus, Sprite , etc. to replace those loss. I skipped this tip as I'm not use to drinking bicarbonate drinks, what's more taking something 'foreign' during a bad tummy day.
Food poisoning or tummy upsets in my family is usually treated with the employment of homeopathic combination of Arsenicum Album ( Arsenious Acid ) - Arsenic Trioxide and Nux Vomica ( Poison-nut). By the 3rd dose, those tummy complaints are left bygones. It's also a combination cure whenever my kids experiences purgation.
Like the saying 'prevention is better than cure'. Reheating stale food doesn't help to kill those harmful bacterias. Anything that's stale, smells, expired or goes bad (even the smallest fungi spotted) should be discarded from the edible list. I used to close an eye upon this food preparation matter, and later the consequences bit me. It's just one of those small matters in life which lay a big impact if not taken seriously.
Food poisoning occurs when those tummy upsets are not curbed, which later followed by frequently diarrhoea and vomiting. If left untreated, it might lead to serious body dehydration. When dehydration takes place, your body starts losing all those essential minerals and salt. Some doctors even suggest drinking ice cream sodas or any mild bicarbonate drinks such as 100 plus, Sprite , etc. to replace those loss. I skipped this tip as I'm not use to drinking bicarbonate drinks, what's more taking something 'foreign' during a bad tummy day.
Food poisoning or tummy upsets in my family is usually treated with the employment of homeopathic combination of Arsenicum Album ( Arsenious Acid ) - Arsenic Trioxide and Nux Vomica ( Poison-nut). By the 3rd dose, those tummy complaints are left bygones. It's also a combination cure whenever my kids experiences purgation.
Like the saying 'prevention is better than cure'. Reheating stale food doesn't help to kill those harmful bacterias. Anything that's stale, smells, expired or goes bad (even the smallest fungi spotted) should be discarded from the edible list. I used to close an eye upon this food preparation matter, and later the consequences bit me. It's just one of those small matters in life which lay a big impact if not taken seriously.
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