Dads are from Mars, Moms are from Venus

This is one of the facts that every men and women know well. No matter how similar mom and dad appears to be, the moment they look into a two sided mirror, when mom raises her right hand, dad would definitely raise his left hand!

It same applies when playing the roles of parents. I bet it's common nowadays for moms to fell stressed out for playing the role of a single mom, managing house chores and the kids all  alone, while most dads just decided to turn into a potato couch an d wouldn't even lift up a finger to help.. ( I could even lose my head by just thinking about it!). It is somewhat a ridiculously unacceptable condition in a family institution when only one party is playing it's role and the other just look on.


I often ask myself 'How on earth can I get those lazy bumps to voluntarily play his role as a dad?' Being an independent mom and living in 'denial happiness' are two great issues. You just can't simply combined them together. Dad just cannot forever tiny out himself from lending mom a helping hand. The kids need their dad too throughout their growing years.


Then it just occur to me..For once, I MUST face the fact than mom and dad are TWO different individuals. They will never be alike or anything near to it..I strictly believe that a good communication between mom n dad is essential. Respecting and listening to each other is a good practice.


Obviously, forcing dad to help just won't do the trick. You'll end up being the 'big nagger' or even promote sparks of a big fight. Bribing dad with 'delicious favourite meals' on table (or even on bed ) won't last long either. You'll end up even more stressed out when his helping hand isn't reachable to your needs. Let dad help because he's playing his own role as a dad and husband. Best is to let him do it voluntarily.

A best effective and permanent way is to learn to develop a more efficient way of communication between mom and dad. Mom will have to just stop giving orders to dad. Learn to listen to dad's side of view on parenting. Stop criticising dad's efforts to help and learn to trust dad with the kids alone (if it worries you too much, well, just monitor him from afar).


Dad may not complete each and every task as perfect and well done as mom, at least he's trying to help (voluntarily, to be more specific). Reconsider that, than having a sore eye witnessing him, relaxing on the couch and not even helping.Learn also to accept each other ideas on parenting. Do not put a deaf ear on dad's opinions. Dad too, should take part and play his role. Praise each other more rather than criticising. 

It is true, like they say, 'Mom knows best, because she knows well', however, in a family where mom and dad are involved, two heads are better than one. Practise the discuss, listen and respect rules and you'll find that parenting together isn't that stressful after all.

Practising Good Parents, Redeem Good Quality Kids

Every marriage has it's own ups and downs. I don't see for any clear reason why kids should also be dragged and entangled into their parents fights of disagreements. Any disagreements between spouses should be iron out to the core. It's much easier to play the goody-two-shoes role in public. But when you're at home with your family, the bad sides just shows.

For the sake of your kids, practice good parents habits. Set a good role model for your kids. Fall in love with each other again and again. Embraced those good times together. Learn to respect and listen to each other. It's okay to have any disagreements once in a while. Make it a good habit to apologize each other after each mistakes done and say thank you after each favors.

Kids learn more from their own parents than from anyone else. Whatever parents do, their gestures or languages, how they talk, the tone of their voice, how they appreciate each other, are all observed and will be adapted by kids. They might think and say 'So, this is how adults interact with each other. This is also what I will do later.' And I'm sure, as a good parent you won't want to give your kids the 'wrong impression' throughout their learning process.

Words of affection, reassurance, and compliments from parents are needed in kids developments. More of 'I love you', 'Thank you for helping', 'Well done', 'Could you PLEASE do me a favor', 'It's okay, you've tried your very best', 'We miss you here. How's day at school?' and so forth. These are words that could leave a deep impact on your kids personality development.

It is easy said than done when it comes to leaving behind those bad habits. Like Oprah Winfrey said, It is about how you feel through your experiences than made you the person you are today. If I am a child who grows from words of destructive rather than compliments, I should understand more than to let my kids go through the same experiences I felt.

Kids are born brilliant..They'll pick up good humanity along the way. But it's a total shame when these smarties have to grow up in an unhealthy environment. Try to practice good parents who respect, listen and help each other a lot and you will be bound for a happy family, in the making of good quality kids..

Give Kids some Time-out

If you're really on the verve of swaying those anger on your kids tantrums, play it safe and smart.

For any misbehavior done, apply a time-out on them. When kids start to disobey the don't s rules, carry them to a corner inside the house. Leave them over a timer of 2mins, 5mins, 10mins, 12mins or anytime that suits best. Remind  them and let them be by themselves for a while. Just to rethink about those misbehaves done. They might be awkward at 1st, being applied those time-outs. But it's safer and more efficient than hitting or yelling.

However, I personally disagree with parents applying time-outs, -outdoors. They are lots of kids snatchers out there nowadays. These professionals could even snatch kids right under their parents' nose. Kids, when given a time-out outside the house appears like a 'delicious appetizer' for them. You won't want to take risks that will be regretted for your life.


There is another safe alternative for grumpy parents with misbehaved kids like me. Whenever they accidentally do something that might pissed you off, just hug them tightly and utter 'I Love You' till your anger subsides. Then again, explain them of their wrong doings. It is more important to seed those love bonds between a mom and her child during childhood times, rather blooming anger and hatred inside them.


I wasn't a good kid myself during my childhood. Often, cane marks on my limbs, slap marks on my cheeks. Those are just some of the values I choose not to inherit to my kids. Some parents do practice 'soft violence' by caning those naughty kids with a damp, rolled up cloth. It doesn't hurt as much as canes or hangers, but you might accidentally cane their sensitive areas such as eyes, nose, ears or genitals. As parents, I'm sure you won't want to be the cause to any fatal injuries on your kids, so go for a better and safer option to train your kids.

A Thin Line between Punishment and Abuse

I admit the cold side of me. I do have the tendency of becoming a witch rather than a mom whenever I'm angry with my kids. They are like.. forever getting on my nerves! But when getting my senses back on track, kids will always be kids. Whether it's your kids or mine, they are and will be the same rascals at times. You just can't afford to be easily irritated with their butterfingers, tortoise like-seems to take ages to complete a simple task given, or even when they have difficulties in understanding an adult's speech or commands.


However, if you experience somewhat unsatisfied anger or seemingly overwhelming while hitting, spanking, pinching or yelling at your kids, this must come to a stop. If punishing your kids results in bruises, scars, bluish spots or kids having difficult ventilation after profuse cries and tears out of dreadful fears, these must also brought to a halt, despite whether you really meant it or not. Parents need to get a grip on their anger management 1st, before laying out rules and punishments on their kids.

From time to time, kids do make mistakes. Sometimes even the dumbest mistakes you could ever thought of. Adults make mistakes often too. We learned and improved ourselves from these mistakes. And like adults, kids need to be constantly reminded too. Educate them smartly with love and care. Pin point outs the do s and don't s. Console, hug and explain to them after each punishment applied. This is a very important step. If you do not make up to them after each punishment, you are risking their future personality, by making ways for anger, hatred and violence to subside inside your kids.


Confront them the right ways - by kneeling down, eye to eye leveled, giving them a piece of advice-at a calm tone. Do not scream or yell from the other side of the room (though at times, its much more convenient to yell from afar). It just doesn't work that way with kids. At a certain point, your aggressiveness might even be misinterpreted as an entertainment for your kids.-'Can't live a day without hearing mom screaming at the top of her lungs'.  I believe that when I put in lots of efforts, patience (sometimes, to the extend of losing my own head) and time in educating my kids, I will be awarded with loving and well behaved kids.

Some might stood up and say ' It's easy for you to say. My kids aren't well behaved s yours. They deserve spanking, yelling and hitting as a lesson'. Believe me, I am also those moms in dilemma of training not well behaved kids. Just for a thought here. You have been playing rough for years. Does it work on your kids? Are they getting better? Or are they now playing rough themselves on their own siblings? Or are you, as a mom, getting even more stressed out than before?

We must 1st change ourselves in order to witness changes all round. There are far more better and efficient ways to educate kids. Using 'tools' and violence on kids are totally unacceptable. Love mist, smart parents and acting firm yet gentle works best.

Taming those Tantrums

"'Always be firm, but yet gentle with your kids'. Those are the words of wisdom from a mother to her daughter, who is now, entering motherhood herself. As a mother myself, I believe that kids tantrums happens for a reason. A reason for those unheard dissatisfaction. Dissatisfaction on their feelings when often witnessing parents quarreling and hitting each other, the feelings of an elder child being left out when parents care and tend more to their younger siblings, feelings of children lacking quality times with their busy occupied parents, feelings of children in a moved-out-a-lot family, feelings of children not spending enough playtime with friends, feelings of children being left out in any decision making that concerns the whole family and much much more an adult mind could think of.

They too, need to voice out their feelings and opinions. And most importantly, being heard by parents. Tantrums can happen at home or even in public, happens once in a while or even everyday tantrums like my kids. Anything dissatisfying could trigger tantrums. If lack of mom's attention is the cause, anything that could catch mom's attention will do, even throwing a bad tantrum in public. When kids tantrums become public, bring them to a quiet corner, far from public eyes if possible, and talk some senses into them. It could be a win-win situation instead of win-lose, if you are good at negotiating with your kids. Never shout and scream at them in public. It'll scar their pride and even mushroomed hatred inside.

Bear in mind that kids pick up bad habits faster than the good ones. It could be habits from their friends, cousins or even parents themselves. These bad habits will show themselves during tantrums. But root of those tantrums doesn't source from their surrounding, but it's from the unheard souls within them.


When those dissatisfaction aren't heard or voice out, it will slowly accumulate inside and your kids will soon bottled up all of their feelings. Before you know it, there will be a thick wall between you and your kids. The wall that you, as a parent yourself, obliviously, take part in constructing it.

It is a priority to educate kids the right ways and means to speak up for themselves. It is never to late to change to a better parent. It is also, after 3years, that I started to realized I haven't heard my daughter well enough. I am also all these years, obliviously building those wall of gaps between the both of us. I am, the cause of her everyday tantrums. The truth can hurt sometimes.


Dissolving those wall of gaps, on the other hand, doesn't take ages. The relationship between a child and her mother has long been bond, even before a child is born. When parents decided to turn over a new leaf, their kids will follow voluntarily. When kids dissatisfaction are always heard and valued by parents, kids won't hesitate anymore to confront their parents whenever they need to be heard. No more unheard dissatisfaction = no more bottled up feelings = no more sudden tantrums.

Milk Quality vs Milk Quantity

The whole world agrees on one matter - Breast milk is the best milk a mom could provide for her growing baby. Surely it doesn't cost you a penny and yet it could provide the best nutrients at the perfect quantity for your baby's development, both physically and spiritually.

When I was a 1st time mom, little did I know about the miracle  works of breast milk. During the 1st few months of lactating my 1st child, I often caught up with bad colds. I consume lots of oranges diligently everyday during those months. I started to notice that my baby girl merely fall sick, even after her immunization doses. She was pretty strong and fit for a baby of her size.

I even recalled having a bad fever after 6m of delivery. Even then, I still continue breastfeeding  exclusively. Amazingly, my baby girl remains fit and healthy growing. I wondered..what makes her THAT strong? No,..she didn't get the 'orange milk' (that's what I thought at 1st), but what happen was, when I diligently consume oranges (which is rich in Vitamin C), my body produces more resistant antibodies. These are the antibodies that flows to my baby during breastfeeding. No wonder I had a fit and healthy baby girl!

Since then, oranges and cod liver capsules are a must in my lactating diet. Especially during those 1st few months of baby's rapid growth. Cod liver oils, on the other hand is a good remedy for coughing moms and acts superbly on your baby's brain development. All the goodness of Omega 3 fatty acids will aid into a smart learning baby.


I can't make it a must for every lactating moms, but whatever lactating diets you choose, keep a highlight on it's nutrients and make sure it's affordable too. You won't want to over strained yourself on over budgeting those expenses, hence making ways for stress to suppress your milk production. Any nutritious food that benefits you, will also be beneficial to your baby, via breast milk.


As to produce more milk during lactating, the key rule is to avoid entrapping yourself in stressful conditions. A stressful mom will stumble upon difficulties in producing more milk. One helpful tip is to learn that there are also 1st time mothers out there who face many issues before  mastering the correct breastfeeding techniques. Be a positive thinker in life and it can save you a dollar or even more. =)


Here's a list of food that can enhance your body to produce more milk. I jot it down, years back during one of my antenatal classes. It helps me a lot.

1. Centella asiatica (pennyworts)
2. Black fennel seeds
3. Spinach
4. White radish
5. White shark ( you make them into dishes, not as pets -LOL)
6. Milk (or any milk based drinks)
7. Banana heart (inflorescence)

Milk and black fennel seeds seems to blend in well with me and my kids. But above all, make sure to drink plenty. You will easily be drenched out during lactating.

Chemical and Drug Poisoning

Kids are just kids. No matter how smart they are, they are easily distracted. Anything colorful and  'fun looking' is just to good to resists.


These, however, includes all those colorful medicines (tablets or syrup) or even detergents, soaps, or repellents that comes in 'attractive' packaging these days. For a prevention step, store all medication and other chemical reagents in a high and unreachable height. You might want to reconsider the 'safe height' to a higher level, when witnessing your 3 year kid standing on a chair and trying to reach out for the mosquito repellent, or even your 3year old kid sharing a bottle of cough syrup with her 1year old brother, just because she herself is given a dose whenever the cough catches in. It doesn't make any difference to her if medicine are given one teaspoon or the emptying the whole bottle!


Yes, these heart throbbing 'scenes' do take place in real life. You never know when these 'accidents' could occur. You have been all ears and all eyes these time and there's only this 'one time' when you are one minute off guard those curious kids of yours, and that's when fatal accidents usually happens at home.

Whatever chemicals or medicines that your kids accidentally swallowed, you might want to bring along those bottles or packaging with you to the hospital. Different chemical poisoning receives different treatment, according to the main ingredients it contains. By making an effort to bring along those bottles or packaging involved, saving the life of your little loved ones might be possible. These are also the star advice my pediatrician used to remind me about. =)

Food Poisoning

Whenever it concerns food poisoning, or chemical poisoning, both seek immediate treatment. Food poisoning, for a start, occurs more often in my family. We are the 'home-cooked type tummy'. We often get tummy upsets easily after eating some 'lousy' food outside. So, it is best for me to home cooked for the whole family.

Food poisoning occurs when those tummy upsets are not curbed, which later followed by frequently diarrhoea and vomiting. If left untreated, it might lead to serious body dehydration. When dehydration takes place, your body starts losing all those essential minerals and salt. Some doctors even suggest drinking ice cream sodas or any mild bicarbonate drinks such as 100 plus, Sprite , etc. to replace those loss. I skipped this tip as I'm not use to drinking bicarbonate drinks, what's more taking something 'foreign' during a bad tummy day.

Food poisoning or tummy upsets in my family is usually treated with the employment of homeopathic combination of Arsenicum Album ( Arsenious Acid ) - Arsenic Trioxide and Nux Vomica ( Poison-nut). By the 3rd dose, those tummy complaints are left bygones. It's also a combination cure whenever my kids experiences purgation.

Like the saying 'prevention is better than cure'. Reheating stale food doesn't help to kill those harmful bacterias. Anything that's stale, smells, expired or goes bad (even the smallest fungi spotted) should be discarded from the edible list. I used to close an eye upon this food preparation matter, and later the consequences bit me. It's just one of those small matters in life which lay a big impact if not taken seriously.

Entering Motherhood

"  Congratulations on your newborn. Thanks..Do join us at our baby shower party"... Is motherhood fully about joyfulness, parties, showers of compliments, gifts and presents? Or is motherhood about challenges, putting in efforts, understanding what a child speaks inside, and most of all, testing your patience to the limits? Just a thought of mine. Read on..

I agree with the fact that being a 1st time mother is ain't easy, especially if you are on your own. It's like entering a door into a whole new world called Motherhood. You are clueless on what's happening, what to expect, and how to react to such situations. I was in that complete dilemma before.

And then goes ' Oh, how I wished someone told me earlier how to overcome these baby problems'. Well,..wish no more, or  you'll find yourself expanding your wishlist from time to time. Motherhood is not something you could just read and master in a short time. Motherhood is something you have to hurdle through and learn along the way.

Every child is unique. It also applies between mother and child. Nothing is 100% similar except for some physical appearances, of course. Mommy's eyes, daddy's long fingers and toes, and the list goes on. Your child will be a superb combination of you and your spouse. This also includes the bad attitudes combination. So, parents.. well behave and mind your languages in front of your kids.If you don't, you might be dumbfounded at the 'results'..

And bear in mind, that each child of yours will need different attentions. My 1st child seems more independent. She will mimic exactly whatever I do or say (gestures included, of course!). She's also a big help around the house, I must admit. Whatever it is, I can't expect a 3yr old kid to think and work like adults do. I must excuse her misbehaviour and uncompleted tasks sometimes. Even a small helping hand is much blessings.


My 2nd child is more pampered, likes to be cuddled and very playful and mischievous at times. Hr cries easily and cannot tolerate any form of harshness and brutality. He likes to befriend everyone his size. Both of them are smart and fast learners. They started walking at an early age. My 1st child started walking when she was 7.5months, and my 2nd child when he was 9months. That's where their similarity as siblings shows.


So you see.. Motherhood is ain't tough job after all. It's a just a matter of how you curb those problems ahead. It can become stressful when you set a very high expectations in it. You can't simply expect everything to flow smoothly along the way. Be prepared for the unexpected. Avoid any bad circumstances if you can. Put an effort, read a lot and listen to other mother's stories on motherhood. At least you'll be armed with some knowledge when confronting the least unexpected.


Now, maybe this is the right time to say ..'' Congratulations on your newborn!.."   =)

Constipation and Flatulence in Babies

Most babies, including mine, experience less constipation while still breastfeeding. Constipation and flatulent condition both start to take place only when I started to introduce solids to them. My 1st child starts experiencing hard poops, constipation and later refuses to further take anymore solids. I only fully-breastfed her till 9 months. Then I started to introduce solid to her again. That was also during the time when she got her 1st tooth.

This time, with previous experiences with her before, I introduce food with much more fruits like bananas, apples in it. She stills experience hard stools at 1st, but later got used to it. I make sure that she also drinks plenty.

With that much of experience I thought applies to my 2nd son too. But, like my mama used to say, each child is unique, even between look-alike twins. My son breastfed more often than his sister, but he stills experience prolonged constipation. Which later leads to flatulent conditions like bloated around his waist and abdomen.


Nothing much I could do for the 1st 6 months, as he's still fully-breastfeeding. The least I did was just to avoid 'windy' food. Later on, after 6 months onwards, I introduced Arab or Bam dates as his 1st solids. It helps fluent his digestive system. He poops normally and regularly, just like he used to, as a newly born baby, before constipation took place.


If your child loves to eat and munch a lot, be more creative with food. Dates could be eaten raw, or blended into juices, or baked into cupcakes, or even be added as an ingredient in some dishes.

Teething and Dentition

Teething and dentition are common among babies. It grows into an issue when it become difficult or delayed. It could prolonged till a couple of years for some.As an adult myself, I can't even stand another day with a bad toothache. It could be an excruciating pain before the 1st tooth protrudes.

Babies might throw out tantrums, whine most of the day and get easily irritated. As a mom, I need to comfort them even more, idle them with teething cookies, yogurt on sticks or even a sugar canes to munch on. Biting and chewing on refrigerated teething toys could also ease those painful, itching gums.

Some even suggest on brushing those gums with soft bristles baby toothbrushes, or even a damp coarse cloth will do the trick. It'll ease the itchiness and help on those difficult dentition. The 1st tooth out may take quite some time for some, and might be very painful and itchy for some babies. This is the time when babies feel the urge to bite and chew almost on everything. I got bitten several times during my kids' dentition. Nevertheless, the worst is being bitten during breastfeeding. It hurts most and can sometimes cause the nipple to bleed.

As for my own personal tips, I use a homeopathy remedy called Chamomilla (German Chamomilla) to soothe their restlessness days and nights. You could also try on soothing aromatherapy candle lights or lavender baby baths.

Kreaosotum (Beechwood Kreosote) and Pulsatilla (Wind Flower) are also common homeopathy remedies during difficult dentition. It works for my daughter during her early dentition, but for my son a combination of Kreos and Calcarea Carbonica - Ostrearum (Carbonate of Lime) suits him better. A rub of Glycerin gel does the trick too.

HFMD or mouth sores

It was, during the HFMD outbreak, when I 1st woke up in the morning and later found out many white, pus-like spots inside my daughter's mouth. Not one or two, but several spots inside her cheeks and even on her tonsils. Shocked and clueless upon findings I later referred with my Homeopathy doctor.

There a remedy called Borax (Borate of Sodium) . It cleared almost 98% of the spot with one dose, within 24hrs. Then, they left another 2% of much more bigger and crucial, more pus spots. A 2nd dose of Borax the very next day cleared all those unwanted sores completely. Thankfully, it didn't reoccur again. I just can't bear even a day to see my daughter crying, eating and drinking with much difficulties with a mouth already full of sores.

I'm not very sure myself on what that may have triggered the sores. My child doesn't mix with any child affected. I'm with her most of the time. Probably it has something to do with her habit of putting almost anything within her reach into her mouth. She might have grasp her walking shoes and sucked on it when I wasn't watching. Dirt, bad bacterias from her shoes may be the cause. After all, CLEANLINESS is the key to a good health..

Heat, Milk Rash and Red Allergy Spots on Face

Both my kids experienced the same situation. I bring them out for a brisk walk, and later returning home and finding some red, allergy-like spots on their faces. For the heat rashes and outdoor allergy-like spots (as I call it), I only treat it by bathing them with Lactacyd Liquid, right after returning home. A face wash mild enough for babies, that was recommended by my Pediatrician. It could be the normal everyday bathing routine too.

Milk rash is common in nursing babies. It could occur anywhere on the face or neck. My 1st child had lots of milk rashes, on and off. A few sprinkles of  Cuticura all purpose talcum powder lessen the milk rashes.

My 2nd child has a fairer complexion compared to his sister. It makes him much prone towards any kind of rashes especially on his face. His rashes are even much more stubborn and difficult to treat.


I accidentally found natural cure for his extra sensitive skin. I love to take fruit juices from blended tomato, cucumber, carrot and apple together. Instead of throwing away the husks, I puree it and feed my son. It makes his skin much smoother and less rashes.. =)

Nappy Rash

My 1st child skin is quite tough. No serious redness or prolonged nappy rashes during her babyhood.Same goes with my 2nd child. But 1 good remedy I'm using till now is sea cucumber oil (gamat). Just a small little drop will do. Pureen nappy rash cream does the trick too. But bear in mind to be alert on how sensitive your baby's skin is 1st. Some babies can't even stand the mildest baby products on their skin. These babies, of course needs special recommendation from their pediatrician.

Above all, make sure the bottom are is clean and dry at all time, which includes getting the right and suitable diapers for your baby. Clean her poops immediately if possible. My mama used to tell me that all babies are clean they love to be cleaned. =)

Haemorrhoids (Piles)

I had it during my 3rd pregnancy with my 2nd child. I felt discomfort at first, but then I got used to it. The pressure from the baby 'brought out' the piles. It's not that BIG but small enough to make me feel uneasy 'down there'. It's still there and will protrude again no matter how many times I try to push it 'back inside'.

It gets worst especially after I'm a ll worn-out after a whole day of house chores and taking care of two active kids. In fact, my mama still had it ever since having my eldest sis, that was in 1969 till today. Medication and surgery won't permanently exclude it. It can reoccur whenever we over strained our body with 'heavy duty' work or chores.


I'm still working out on it and finding the right remedy to get rid of it (without surgery, of course). I was recommended VF Piles (again, another homeopathy solution), twice a day intake till the piles deceases. So far, so good.I really hope that it could disappear permanently before I conceived again.. :-) 

A 9m Journey

Most mothers went through hardship throughout the 1st trimester. Mine lasted till the 3rd trimester for both my kids (boy, how LUCKY I am!). Some even had the worst of morning sickness, bleeding through the 3rd trimester, and much much more other experiences. I had afternoon sickness so far, as it occurs only in the afternoon. I never actually gained weight during both my pregnancies. But, like they say, experiences will make you even wiser. I went through a miscarriage before, so despite the worst afternoon sickness I had to go throughout 9m, it's also a 'good sign' that my baby is developing normally. It just pay off with all those hardship, just to finally give birth to healthy, beautiful kids. So, pregnancy is not just about whining all the way towards 9m, but it's a matter of appreciation."Thank God for giving me this gold opportunity to be a MOM"..

Conceiving and Miscarriage

It seems quite hard to conceive these days. I have no specific tips to be more fertile, but I believe if you practice a good and healthy lifestyle, which includes good eating habits, then have no worries bout conceiving. No point of stressing out yourself, torturing your mind and soul bout getting pregnant as soon as possible. At the end of the day, you'll put your marriage at risk by making it even more difficult to conceive. Just relax and enjoy life with your partner. The time will come when you will have kids of your own.


I recalled the 1st time I was tested for pregnancy. The double positive line appeared vividly, but enough to make me on top of the world. I was a Mom at last! But fate just turned the table over me. As happy as a lark at 1st, I soon learned that my baby wasn't developing normally. At 10months, I had a miscarriage. I was still working at that time, you just couldn't image how miserable I was. I don't feel like going into public. I'm ashamed of myself, towards my family, friends. Everyone knew about the baby coming but now it's gone.


I then seek treatment for both physically and mentally through homeopathy. It works for me and till today, no more drugs for me and my kids, just homeopathy that does the cure. I was pregnant again with my 1st child 3m later.And 2yrs later with my 2nd child.

Colic/Windy tummy

Both my babies experience bad colic.It's worst when the wind just got mobile in tummy and refuse to 'go out'.I had colic myself as a baby.My mom just let me grow through it.In fact, I still experience it till today.But you know what?It's not easy to let your baby grow through it!It's even worst with my 2nd baby.Sometimes, I do feel like a huge mommy octopus, trying to solve 10 task at the same time!Ironically, I appreciate my mama even more..She went through a whole lot of experience to raise me and other siblings.


I tried almost everything to ease the colic, vapourising ointment, gripe water, etc.A friend of mine recently suggests to drop a few flakes of pounded black pepper on the baby's navel right after birth till it dries off.It'll somehow reduce the wind in the tummy.Will try it on my next child.

Jaundice

My 1st child experience it for less than 3d.But with my 2nd child, it prolonged till the end of my confinement period (nearly 44d).It differs with babies, I guess.


The best treatment as my paediatrician used to advice is to breastfed the baby as often as you can and also to expose him to some very early morning sunlight (mere 5-10min,depends on how the baby's skin can handle it).Besides that, I also give a few doses of Chelidonium Majus (Celandine)- a prominent homeopathic liver remedy.It helps to reduce his yellowness a bit.


I've worked in a clinic long enough to witness how jaundiced babies are treated.All the blood pricking and exposure under UV light which could only scales and dries up baby's skin even more.As a mother, I couldn't have the heart to let my kids experience through all that, so I took my paediatrician's advice and stick to breastmilk and early morning sunlight therapy.

Breast feeding and breast engorgement

One good tip I still practiced till now is to spare some frozen cabbage leaves throughout the 1st month of breastfeeding or till you have mastered breastfeeding skills.Its NOT an easy task to breastfed your baby.You may face problems such as little milk, too much milk could also be a problem as it could lead to breast engorgement and later you'll experienced chapped, sored or even bled nipples.The frozen cabbage leaves could somehow ease the engorged pain by just cupping it over your breast.It works for me.I also take Pulsatilla (Wind Flower).3 doses is enough to soothe my engorgement.


And another 1 helpful tip is to continue breastfeeding your baby.The more milk the baby feeds, the better the milk will flow, and soon the engorgement will soothe away by itself.Engorgement is a normal thing for me.It happens during my 1st and 2nd child.Its a normal signal your body shows when more milk need to be produced.Do not dab or soothe the engorged breast with anything warm because it can make pain even more unbearable.Frozen cabbage leaves does the trick.


Breastfed your baby correctly.You won't want to end up with sored nipples.Make sure the whole of the dark area (aureole) fits into your baby's mouth.The baby must not suck in his lips together while feeding.I close an eye on this issue.As a result, I experienced sored nipples and blocked ducts from time to time during my 1st child.